Sometimes I am reminded that we just may need a kick up the Khyber Pass and count our blessings.
I know a woman who I can describe as a tough old nut. She has had her fair share of tragedies, and continues to solider on, where a few of us may have caved in and crawled back under the blankets, not to come out till the coast was clear. I sometimes want to do that, don’t you?
This woman I know is middle aged, a leader in her own right with a very interesting past. The more time I sit with her the more stories she shares. Then when I put it all together it all makes sense and comes home to roost so to speak.
I am constantly reminded of how ignorant I am, or how sheltered I am, or how little I have lived, this is her story.
At one time in her life she was a champion swimmer, she definitely has guts and lots of it. Knows all about setting and achieving goals.
She has had a varying career, in fact was a Teacher, this said, I was gob smacked at the presentation of her work presented to me. It was quite frankly crap, presentation dreadful, spelling rubbish (considering she had a teachers background). I couldn’t figure out the why’s, she has so much sound knowledge on managing a store, staff and merchandise. Therefore I persevered, well why wouldn’t you, I like a challenge.
She has recently become a single mother to two girls, her husband abandoned her to cope with a disabled daughter along with another daughter who she is struggling with being a teenager, this one has entered into the dark side of teenage angst, and it’s all about her. Probably I imagine coping with the separation of her parents hasn’t helped either.
The disabled daughter has a carer, so this gives our friend the opportunity to work and support the other daughter who attends a private school (an expensive one, I might add). She also does shift work, so how hard do you imagine that is. But it pays reasonably well.
Another time she was telling me about a property in the country that was left to her by her parents who died in a car accident when she was young. She doesn’t want to give up the legacy her parents gifted her and intends to keep it for her daughters.
I am starting to understand why she looks like a train wreck at times and has very little concern for delivering beautifully completed assignments. Think I can give her this one don’t you?
- So she has had two husbands
- Two divorces behind her
- Been a champion swimmer
- A career as a teacher
- Lost bother her parents in tragic circumstances
- Have two daughters to support
- Working to put one daughter through private schooling giving her as many opportunities as she can
- Raising a disabled daughter with some help via a carer
- Works full time
- Does shift work
- She is an assistant manager at a fast food outlet
Then the clangor she dropped for which I admire her most apart from her outstanding management skills
She looked at what life has dished up to her, took the bull by the horns and auditioned for Big brother.
I said why do you want to do that to yourself, she said, ‘I want to experience everything I possibly can as I have no more to lose’
- Gotta love her
- Gotta re evaluate my own life
- Gotta count my blessings